Here is a pretty open ended post - what are the top five keys, in your humble opinion, that would lead to a successful marriage?
I will start the ball rolling with my five: not in any special order...
1. Communication - regular communication
2. Learning your partner's love language
3. Team work/Partnership - developing an us against all odds mindset
4. Learning to disagree without being disagreeable
5. Common Goals
OK - what are some of your ideas? Of course I left out a common faith - duh - so important.
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God's Love Triangle
Communication
Trust
Understanding
Love/Intimacy
That sounds about right and we have a GREAT MARRIAGE PRAISE GOD. I love my wife. She loves me back! We are in love. p.s we came up with these together :o)
Well from personal experience.... Communication is a definite item on the list. We also discovered many years ago that our church involvemnet is a huge thing as well. We had pretty much stopped going to church and it did not take long before things started going south. We had been looking for a new church to go to and it was so frustrating finding one, we just sadi "ahh forget it" and stopped going.
Compromise is another biggie. I learned that some things are just not worth the arguement, and for the sake of peace in the home, to just let it go.
Oh yea.... "Yes dear" is a common phrase I have learned too! :-)
Mike
Five rules:
1. Don't press the hot button - we all know the hot button of our spouse. Just never go there.
2. Enjoy. Make it a goal to make the other laugh at least once a day. The corollary is to find humor in all the stuff that happens.
3. Live financially within your means. Finances are a major cause of broken marriages.
4. Honor the 60-60 rule. Marriage isn't 60-40 where one gives more than the other. It isn't 50-50 where every thing is even-steven. It's each giving 60%. The Bible's term for this is living for her/submitting to him. It really works - If BOTH are doing it.
5. Learn your spouses love language - and keep doing those things. They will NEVER get tired of receiving that kind of love.
Well maybe it's the things before marrying are the most important.
1. Attempt to know oneself better 1st before joining another in life's journey.
2. Read more chapters of the book prior to reading just 1-2 chapters before agreeing to buy the book.
I think defining what a "successful" marriage can be many different things to each indvidual couple. Probably no two models match.
I think marriage like most things in life are somewhat a mystery to us ordinary creations and yet to God is his perfect masterpiece. I would think service and sacrafice rank high on the list for being successful.
I just spoke to someone today that mentioned they didn't do the blog page thing - but - they had read it and said one of the keys for a successful marriage is commitment. Too many people are not committed to their marriages they said.
Is it possible to marry the wrong person?
Yes, it is possible to marry the wrong person. If you're in an abusive relationship then you need to see the Pastor and get some help. He'll be able to guide you through your options and help you protect yourself/kids or put you in touch with someone who can. If you're in a "sour" relationship or have "fallen out of love" then wo/man up, talk to the Pastor so he can give you guidance on how to make things right. In the "fallen out of love" case the last thing you want is to bail on a relationship that God intended to be Holy. That's my short version on is it possible to marry the wrong person. Yep.
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